Beans and Baloney!

The progression of the bean!!






Those tiny little beans had us all gathered around the plant...

...gawking!!
It has just all happened so fast!

Okay, plants aside...I do want to say something else today.
I must type it out quickly between dinner prep and taxi mom time while it is fresh on my heart and mind.
I would say it is mainly to mommies, new-ish mommies in particular.

Are feeling deliriously happy like nothing you have ever felt in your whole life and ever thought you would feel?
Are you feeling like being a Mommy of a precious little life is the best thing that you could have chosen off of the menu of possibilities given you?
Are you feeling like you could just burst with joy and cry with wonder when you come in contact with just a whiff of your little bundle as you feed him or cuddle her?

Now, on the other hand...
Are you overwhelmed beyond belief?
Do you feel like you will never feel human again, even if you slept from now till August?
Are you frustrated at the chores gone undone and the meals unprepared?
Do you wish just one item of clothing would fit, so you could feel just a tiny bit stunning for a few seconds while you suck in the impossibility that is now your stomach???
Are you lonely and sad and worn down to a frazzle?

How is it possible to feel so much JOY and so much agony all at once?
My dear, dear friends...that is a huge part of what being a mommy is all about!
YOU are not alone!
YOU are one of many fighting your desire to be the super fabulous you that you used to be, while not caring a bit for that person because of who you need to be for this new little life.

Don't find it strange if you are grieving who you once were or what you used to be able to do.
This is a new phase of your life!
You may be able to bring along some of the old you, but you may have to leave a ton of it behind.
Frankly, you were probably pretty super, but it is nothing compared to who you will become as you grow in love and maturity...and faith!

I am here to tell you right now, (and this is my opinion) it is okay to not have it all together!
Sometimes you are just in survival mode, and that is just the truth of it.
It is perfectly fine to have dishes undone, and laundry in piles awaiting your return.
You know what...you may even run out of toilet paper before you get a chance to pry yourself away from your home to run the errands that have to be done despite your exhaustion.
It is okay!

Do NOT be afraid to seek out a listening ear, and take the time to rant and rave and cry and be frustrated.
You might find a person who has been right where you have been and is longing to be a help!

Do NOT be so concerned at what you didn't get done and miss out on what you did accomplish.

Let your husband know of your need to know that you are loved beyond a shadow of a doubt despite the fact that you may not be able to wear a single thing but yoga pants and his old t-shirts.
I bet you don't realize that he thinks you are beautiful, just simply beautiful, even when you can't see a glimmer of glamor except in the chips of polish left over from the pedicure before the baby was born.

I think this time of life, when a baby comes into the home, even a second baby... is so hard for a woman.
Listen!
You are amazing!
You are loved!
You are doing the most important thing you could be doing when you feed and care for your children.
Okay, I hope that made sense. I have to post this without reviewing and correcting cause that is how it is today!
If there are crazy typo's or weird spellings...well you just will have to forgive me, cause I am doing the best I can right now with what I have got!!!
And I am A-Okay with that!!
Gotta jet, laundry to switch and children to feed and taxi to drive!